You’re not alone, he’d tell me, and this was the beginning, the start of every lesson of my apprenticeship. I was being tutored in grief and its responsibilities, learning to be a survivor. (To live through tragedy is not enough, he taught me; to live is to be indentured, forever, to a particular standard of behavior.) I know, I’d say, shifting about in the bed as he searched my face with an urgency, watching to make sure I meant it, that I’d absorbed his reassurance. (Hungry eyes, I read later in some terrible romance novel, He had hungry eyes, and I knew exactly what it meant.) I was lying, always. I did not know. I understood what he meant, but I wasn’t comforted; you’re not alone was both a confirmation of what I already knew---there is no one who can share this grief, not this way---and something of a threat: you are not entirely yourself. You will never be only yourself.
You are not alone, he'd say, tapping my sternum with one index finger. Brian is right here. Some nights I was sure I felt him in my chest: tiny nesting doll of a boy passed to me for safekeeping, the thimble of him spilling over with stories and prayers and regret, set in the hollow place my father thought Brian’s death had carved inside me. Sometimes it was my shoulder he touched. Sometimes he made a vague motion around my head, as though Brian was a halo, as though his death had made me queen of something. Will you remember him? he asked. Do you promise?, or What do you think he's doing now? Do you think he's learning to play basketball? Do you think he knows how to read? Do you think he misses us?
I never knew what to say. I couldn’t, no matter how I tried, imagine him. Impossible, to fantasize a personality, a childhood, a face---to extrapolate from his short life in the easy way my father did. Was I the world’s worst twin? Immune to the connection which surely existed between other twins, which transcended even death? I should know him, I thought. Something was wrong with me, that I didn’t know him. Something was terribly wrong: I didn’t want to know him. I had no need, just then, for an imaginary comrade, a lavish and consoling fiction. That would come later.
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